Rob and Me

Skipping Along

My husband and I had one of those basic little stories. I am a chaotic mess maker who prefers to have ten things going on at the same time and Rob is exceeding OCD with attention to fine detail.

Rob was married before and has three children, retired from the military, and fights a condition called Essential Tremor which is an attention tremor in his hands. His son had two children but had disconnected from the mother and kids, and as a result we also lost the connection.
I have also been married before, had no children, and enjoyed my meager little existence in the community. I worked a couple of jobs and in 2010 decided to open an LLC dance studio.

In recent years we were skipping along in life, Rob getting his BS degree in fine art and I was dancing and traveling which defines so much of who I am.

New Beginnings

Things changed.

To think of it now, it all seemed to happen so quickly. We realized that the grandkids, now seven and nine, were in foster care and that we had an opportunity to visit them. We had decided that we would be visitors in their lives as they had settled in with a foster family. Adoption seemed immident with this family and there was another half-sibling living in the same home with them for which we were not related. It was as close to perfect as we were going to get. Shortly after our meeting, we soon discovered the kids needed help. The foster parent returned our two grandchildren after four years (who does that?) and they were separated from each other in two separate homes. Their half sibling stayed with the orginal family.

What is our Couple-Story Today?

I think it is a very important question even today. Rob and I have a new journey. This new journey is hard. We are tired, stressed, and constantly questioning one decision or another. We are discovering that if we are not mindful, our couple identity could potentially get lost as we make these kids a priority.

So, what do people need to know who are in a similar struggle? Keep the normals that are important.

I sold my llc but I still have my full time job.
Personal improvement is important to me. I have gone back to school, and I am a health buff so I continue to be accountable to my healthy lifestyle
Rob loves to be creative. It is important for him to either create something new in our landscaping outside or paint a watercolor painting.
He needs down time and the ability to drive away, go for a walk, or just be around adults.

We all live in our own normal

Our family lives are in a new state of existing and we work hard every day to cooperate. I must rely on others for help and believe that these children will be better because we were here to support them. They can be bad and I mean really bad, but they can also be beautiful.

We work because we are all in the same race together. It is called the "human race." And we want the kids to have a chance to be winners in that race.

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Rob and Me

Skipping Along

Things changed.

What is our Couple-Story Today?

So, what do people need to know who are in a similar struggle? Keep the normals that are important.

We work because we are all in the same race together. It is called the "human race." And we want the kids to have a chance to be winners in that race.


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	Rob and Me Skipping Along My husband and I had one of those basic little stories. I am a chaotic mess maker who prefers to have ten things going on at the same time and Rob is exceeding OCD with attention to fine detail. Rob was married before and has three children, retired from the military, and fights a condition called Essential Tremor which is an attention tremor in his hands. His son had two children but had disconnected from the mother and kids, and as a result we also lost the connection. I have also been married before, had no children, and enjoyed my meager little existence in the community. I worked a couple of jobs and in 2010 decided to open an LLC dance studio. In recent years we were skipping along in life, Rob getting his BS degree in fine art and I was dancing and traveling which defines so much of who I am. Things changed. To think of it now, it all seemed to happen so quickly. We realized that the grandkids, now seven and nine, were in foster care and that we had an opportunity to visit them. We had decided that we would be visitors in their lives as they had settled in with a foster family. Adoption seemed immident with this family and there was another half-sibling living in the same home with them for which we were not related. It was as close to perfect as we were going to get. Shortly after our meeting, we soon discovered the kids needed help. The foster parent returned our two grandchildren after four years (who does that?) and they were separated from each other in two separate homes. Their half sibling stayed with the orginal family. What is our Couple-Story Today? I think it is a very important question even today. Rob and I have a new journey. This new journey is hard. We are tired, stressed, and constantly questioning one decision or another. We are discovering that if we are not mindful, our couple identity could potentially get lost as we make these kids a priority. So, what do people need to know who are in a similar struggle? Keep the normals that are important. I sold my llc but I still have my full time job. Personal improvement is important to me. I have gone back to school, and I am a health buff so I continue to be accountable to my healthy lifestyle Rob loves to be creative. It is important for him to either create something new in our landscaping outside or paint a watercolor painting. He needs down time and the ability to drive away, go for a walk, or just be around adults. Our family lives are in a new state of existing and we work hard every day to cooperate. I must rely on others for help and believe that these children will be better because we were here to support them. They can be bad and I mean really bad, but they can also be beautiful. We work because we are all in the same race together. It is called the "human race." And we want the kids to have a chance to be winners in that race.
Lesia L. Pristas all rights reserved, April 2018 For questions regarding this site, contact Lesia at: lpris001@odu.edu Learn more about Tina Traster, an independent writer who is dealing with RAD of her adopted daughter from a Russian orphanage.